Maintaining Family ties
Assalam O Alaikum Sheikh,
Kindly explain the importance of keeping family ties, and what are the consequences in this world and the hereafter for people who break ties of kinship due to family issues?
Also, please elaborate on the rewards for the party who let their ego away, regardless of the complexity of the issues, and initiates the patch up.
Wa alaykum salam.
Allah ta’ala has warned us against cutting the ties of kinship (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who break the Covenant of Allah, after its ratification, and sever that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e., they sever the bond of kinship and are not good to their relatives), and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse (i.e., they will be far away from Allaah’s Mercy); And for them is the unhappy (evil) home (i.e., Hell).” [al-Ra’d 13:25]
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever would like his rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5986 and Muslim, 2557)
A man said to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), “I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths. Allah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that.” (Reported by Muslim with commentary by al-Nawawi, 16/115).
In Islam we are taught and encouraged to hold dear family ties.
Infact relatives deserve kindness and good treatment moreso than non relatives.
If for some reason we would like to abstain from keeping company from some relatives due to a valid religious reason to avoid harm etc then we may minimise our keeping company with them without actually cutting off our relationship completely.
We should still visit them once in a while, help them out when we can, give salams to them etc. The one who initiates salam has been praised in the following hadith;
” البادئ بالسلام بريء من الكبر ” . رواه البيهقي في ” شعب الإيمان
The one who initiates salam is free from arrogance.
Shaykh Mohammed Shakeeb